So I'm getting married in Oct. and...
 

as you can see from my signature below, I've only done a few things with the Pu, and I'm dyin for some go fast parts. I'd love to spend the wedding gift money under the hood instead of the honeymoon. Is that so wrong?

Sorry.

Inb4wifecastratesOP


From a married man, to a soon to be married man; good luck with that shit. You want me to get the divorce papers drawn up now?

If you'd like help to resolve the predicament, could you please post pictures of bride to be. If she's attractive, I'm sure one of your local Nator LA guys wouldn't mind coming down to take one for the team by screwing her so that she would be forced to cancel the wedding.


You spend gift money, everyone wins.

dont get married. listen to us...

+1

I'd say you're looking at an annulment...if you go that route. However, marriage is about compromise so you could pitch a splitting of said funds...she gets clothes, spa treatments, etc. You get go fast parts:smlove2:

say goodbye to modding:sorry:

...or the marriage

My wife is pretty cool w/ me modding the cars as long as I don't go overboard with spending. It is definitely a subject that you'll want to tread lightly on. I'd sit her down and have an honest conversation with her about both of your expectations regarding this and other issues. Maybe she has a thing for shoes(most women do). You can explain to her that modding your car is like her have a new pair of heels... That's what got my wife to understand. :)

Good Luck!

-Tyler

Split the wedding money and don't tell each other what you bought. Win/win

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dump the soon to be exwife. buy mods and get a hooker when you wanna get laid. marriage sucks bro.

I have been married 20 yrs. DONT FUCKING DO IT!! Wait until you need somebody to look after you, until then blow your money how YOU want to and not how SHE wants you to. If you want kids pay a bitch to carry it for you, it will be cheaper and less hassle in the long run.

Oh and I am happily miserable, LOL, :240:

Being married for just over a year now, I have learned it's hard to get the wife to let me spend money on things she thinks are pointless. I had to explain to her that a lot of the things she spends money on to were pointless. You have to let your wife spend money on something she really wants and not say a thing about it then later when you tell her you are spending money on mods she can't fight you as much since you let her spend money. Lately I have found that since I seem to be paying for everything due to her hours being cut, she lets me spend money on what I want with out much argument.

Either way I would spend the money on the honeymoon, make it something special you both will remember for years and make sure she feels like a princes. The most important thing I have been told and have found to be true is "happy wife, happy life". Besides, it's your honeymoon also.

get a better job. then you can afford to have a good home life, and hobby.

You could always keep separate bank accounts.

my wife and I share all our finances, but we never argue over one of us spending money unless we don't have the funds to begin with.

you'll learn.

spend it on the honey moon. When my wife and I got married we went to charleston sc and where able to have fun and not have to worry about money at all, and plus your honeymoon only happens once modding well that is non stopping.

Keep your bank accounts seperate and save extra money on the side. When you extra savings fund gets high enough to buy said part, order the fucker and dont let her talk shit to you about it in the beginning or she will roll right over you the entire marriage.

*married only 4 years but learned enough for a lifetime*

hope you like sleeping on the couch, or you may be living in that car .
you gotta take care of the car..and the wifee

although im 21 and only taking care of the car..gf hates it

I'm in the same boat! Getting married in about 9months or so....
With the money I spent on her ring, I could've been bt-fully built+ suspension and ccw classics!
Its all good though, no complaints here!
As far as modding goes, she probly spent more money on my last car (Si) then I did.
Haha!!!!

Being married is over played and is more about religion and certain old school values people try to follow. Me and my girl have been living for years together and have 2 kids together. All the girl wants is a ring, get her the ring and she won't care so much about being married. Exactly what I did never hear about getting married again

First put some nudz pictures, then we'll tell you...

i wish my girlfriend would put money into my car. that would be pretty good maybe i will start hinting to an exhaust and temp gauge

I'm getting married next saturday. That's why I hurried the fuck up and got all my major mods in before then. She bitched about it, but it's technically MY money, until next week.


I did it in 3 months, you have the same amount of time. Quit dicking around.

Just find a woman you hate and buy her a house. It'll be easier and cheaper in the long run.

The number one cause of divorce in America is marriage.

Here's an idea from a divorced and now happily remarried man:

We have 3 bank accounts: mine, hers, and ours.
First priority is to fund the "ours" account - this pays for all common expenses such as the mortgage, childcare, general fund, agreed savings, etc etc.
Money remaining in "my" account is there for me to spend as I see fit, and money in her account is there for her to spend as she sees fit. She can buy her shit that I find silly, and I can buy that alcohol kit for my Buick - no fuss no muss. When we want to take a vacation, we mutually agree to fund it....or sometimes one person pays for it as a gift. When I buy her a gift, it's from MY money, not OUR money, and same for her.


Some say that this is not healthy as the "partnership" of marriage means that we share everything. I disagree. We DON'T have money fights.

It is my opinion that wedding money fells into the category of OURS, so take it from an old seasoned fart: don't spend the wedding cash on your car....but make sure you put a piece of the money you earn on your own aside for a fun fund.

I just got married in June, and that's exactly how we're setting up our accounts. so far no fights about funds, but it's still early ;)

5 years and that's how we have ours setup. Though not with so many rules really. We each have a savings account and there is a checking and savings account that we use for everything else. Any discretionary spending that comes out of the other accounts you get no heat for. The only discussion is how much gets dropped in the other account. I have it setup to direct deposit any $$ over xxx into my savings so it drops in my overtime and bonuses as well.

Create the 'Mama don't know money' fund!!! I've resorted to selling my perscriptions for this purpose and most of my mods have been bought without her knowing!!!! Ah ,marriage:240:

Been married 24 years now and I am a car enthusiast. At first it was OK, then as time goes on it's gets worse with spending money and buying, modding cars. Now I have to beg for a mod and it's not the money as much as it is.....what do you need to do that for? Is the car going to be louder? And it gets even more complicated when you have kids. My son is desperate for my Speed 3 and I will be handing him the keys in another year. Then I have to get something else and it gets really expensive. So..........pretty much what everyone else has said, stay single as long as you can and mod your car now while you can!

About the only thing that changed when I got married is that I got a HUGE discount on my car insurance. Hell, my wife knows that I think marriage is essentially meaningless and it's just a piece of paper. We have been together for 8 years and married for 1.5 and I don't think anything has changed. Really though, she was already my wife before we got married (we were living together already). If things are going to change that much because of a piece of paper then you are probably doomed from the start.

Personally, I don't have any problems with my wife and buying mods, but then again I'm a reasonable person and I don't go spend all our savings on mods. I guess it just depends on your personalities. Are you the type of person that blows every dollar you get on the car? If so, maybe you are right to be worried.

Also, I really don't get the separate bank account thing. If you are gonna get in a fight every time one of you buys something for yourself, is that the kind of person you want to marry?

Not saying that you guys are anti marriage, but...

Not all women are cunts. I know, hard to believe right.

My $.02: I've never said no to my B-usband to buy parts. I wouldn't want to be told NO for what I want, and he doesn't. He knows I want what I want for a reason, as goes with him. He's intelligent enough To do his research (and more research) before he presents his idea/question to me, therefore I know the part is needed. I don't question him except maybe to understand the functionality. It's really that simple.

It may help to marry a car enthusiast, just sayin. :doh:

See our accounts are the same as some others have mention we have our own checking and savings and we have a joint checking, that we both put a x amount of money in to cover all of our bills and grocerys and etc, then our checking account well our checking account to do with what we please to do with if we want to buy clothes that new xbox game etc, but we both know that bills come paid first then our wants come last. Now my wife does not have a issue with modding my car as long as our priority's have been met first. And she is a car enthusiast to her dad was into old school muscle so she understands my passion with cars. Another thing we had been dating for little over a year and have yet to have one argument or fight before we got married in June, and nothing is no different as it was when we where not married. So if you have been with some one for a while you have all ready seen them for who they are, so I seriously doubt they will change over night by saying two words of I Do.

+1

unless you are getting married to a woman like mine....she has a ms3...spends her money on parts and she wants to learn to auto X...we have been married 7 years so it all depends on the woman

Don't you get Wedding gifts when you get married?

In the wedding invite just put down a line:

"Car model: 2nd Gen Mazdaspeed 3,

Need: Downpipe, Intake, FMIC, HPFP"

I'm sure you'll get a few things.

I recently got married in June. We had registered, but didn't tell people or put it in the invitations, I mean people found out because we registered at obvious places like macy's, but it forced the majority of people to give money, which I'm sure most everyone would rather have.
Just a tip. We made our money back from the venue, photographer and limo and then some.

Congrats and good luck. It'll be an amazing day for you guys. Listen to everyone when they say it goes fast because it does!
Make sure you have LOTS of patience the day before the wedding. That's when it's the worst...

boy, aint that the truth! i was all stressed out until the day before. then i was calm because it's all out of your control at that point. Apparently that's when my wife(to be at that point) started wigging out about everything. I'm glad it's done and over with. It was fun, but there was just a ton of stress/BS leading up to the day.

Regardless, if you can't buy parts, see if you can work it into your budget. I have $50 a month that's going to a mod fund. I know it's not much but our finances are pretty tight from other savings/investments.

@eric@edgeautosport @jbarone
Time to make a link for wedding list...FTW

you guys are doing it way wrong. your wife should be bringing you a sandwich while you are working on your car. :wizard:

Thanks brother. I've actually thought of all that ahead of time and while we live in L.A., we"re flying to Tallahassee a week before the wedding to make sure everything is all set so I don't freak out and feed myself to an alligator. Additionally, going there next month to do a "final arrangements week" 2 months before the wedding so that shit is already ready and i can take it easy and go fishing a few days before the rehearsal. Sucks I wont have my GenPu there to tear up some Florida marshland backroads!

She's got a bridal registry at Bed, Bath, & Beyond or some shit. I should make one at Edge Autosport and tell them my coordinator's name is Eric!